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Those of you who know me… know how I feel. EVERY SINGLE LIFE HOLDS IRREPLACEABLE VALUE regardless of demographic or socioeconomic status. But pointing that out isn’t helping right now.
Yes, there are individuals who are heavily investing in dividing the people in our great nation in every way they can. But that aside, let’s dive into the root cause of the issues that fuel the BLM movement. Racism is very much alive and well in many areas of our country (and world), involving all races. And unfortunately in the US it is even more so magnified within the black community.
I wasn’t going to say anything about what all is going on because a FB post seems 100% completely superficial. Especially when I’ve lived my entire life as an “anti-racist,” and yet am being called a racist by people who don’t know me because of my skin color, the lack of polarizing Facebook posts, and refusal to apologize for something I and my lineage has never taken part in. But just because it isn’t “my fault” that people are enduring the bullshit they are, doesn’t mean it isn’t MY RESPONSIBILITY to do what I can to promote humanity, help people solve their problems, and encourage them to find who they truly are.
I have shared many tears listening to gorgeous and intelligent women sob because they aren’t “black enough” to be black when their opinions contradict others with their same or similar skin color. I’ve stood up for women being told they can’t do their computer-based jobs because of being black and female. I’ve coached people who desperately wanted to start their own business, but then quit because of pressure they couldn’t handle being called an “Uncle Tom” by friends and family for wanting a better life. I have talked with military service women who were emotional messes not knowing whether they truly deserved the positions given to them based on merit or because the command has deemed them an untouchable jackpot for “equal opportunity” purposes, having black women rise in ranks to pad their quotas (yes that actually is a real thing happening right now in the military). And that goes without mentioning any statistics… just my personal experiences.
𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐧𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐠𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐚𝐧 𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐜𝐫𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐬 𝐮𝐧𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐞𝐝, 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐭𝐨𝐨 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐛𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐨𝐨 𝐛𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐭𝐞… 𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲’𝐯𝐞 𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐭 𝐭𝐨𝐮𝐜𝐡 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐜𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐚𝐠𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐤 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 “𝐦𝐢𝐝𝐝𝐥𝐞 𝐜𝐥𝐚𝐬𝐬”… 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐭𝐨𝐭𝐚𝐥 𝐠𝐮𝐭 𝐩𝐮𝐧𝐜𝐡. They deserve better. And if they were treated based on their merits, we would all be better because of it.
I’ve personally been attacked and feared for my life because of my skin color and gender. So please, don’t think that I don’t get it. No, I haven’t dealt with it every day of my life, but I have experienced it, along with being abused on multiple levels and neglected by the system that by definition should have helped me. Life is hard, some people have “tougher” lessons in life than others, and most people don’t share about their struggles at all. I applaud you for sharing yours, for stepping into it, and for reaching out for healing. I hope you allow your struggle to teach you to Iove deeper and harder and to be far more empathetic, as my trauma and healing has taught me.
Yes, I do believe the world would be a better place if everyone was 100% blind to skin color differences… if we were ALL to excel based on virtue and character… and we may very well be able to see that achieved in our lifetime… but let’s be honest. That requires EVERYONE to be on the same page. Right now that simply isn’t the case. Fact of the matter is some people do, but MANY don’t.
Yes, I believe we all have opportunities available to us in life, especially in the US… but think for a moment… how many opportunities have you foregone for whatever reason? How many opportunities have you felt forced to walk away from because of societal pressure, inability to see yourself successful, or had an overwhelming lack of support? We are all on different paths. You will never recognize opportunities you don’t align with… and many times when dealing with deeply rooted spiritual and emotional trauma, it is impossible to even acknowledge that a better life is possible for you.
Until we can ALL get on the same page with EVERYONE having the same opportunities, the same level of cultural support, and the same abilities to see our value and capability within those opportunities, our black communities do in fact need our help. They need validation, to see their own value as the amazing souls they are, to be uplifted, encouraged, enabled and supported through needed spiritual healing caused by numerous generations of trauma (AND the associated self-inflicted trauma), and accepted for who they truly are, even when they’re feeling too lost, angry, and hurt to see it. That takes time. A lot of time. And it takes the willingness and grit to do the inner work. Of course I believe the riots and looting are not helping, and not at all adequately reflect what the protests are all about… and I also feel there are other malicious intent and activities going on behind the scenes that is taking advantage of the situation. I also believe there is a lot more under the surface we all find ourselves judging.
Regardless… there is nothing simple about this whole situation. And ignoring the fact that there is healing needed is ignoring your own healing too. As within, so without. We are all connected. This is all a reflection of something inside us collectively that need to be addressed and healed.
If you feel the call to help and don’t know how (especially with this ongoing quarantine), I encourage you to look within, sit in your Shadow, and heal your shit. I highly recommend the ho’oponopono prayer. It will positively impact everyone, and if we are all doing this inner work, the results will be measurable as time ticks on.
Don’t know how? I’ll gladly give you referrals to my favorite people skilled and trained in helping you heal spiritual wounds (it is how I stopped my chronic anxiety 2 years ago). If what you’re going through is too heavy, then hold light, love, and positivity (that alone does have a positive impact, even if other people attempt to make you feel as though it isn’t enough).
Make new friends, encourage them, understand them, share opportunities and the value/benefit of those opportunities (this is one of my personal favorite skills). Or just love. Unconditional caring for your fellow person with no strings attached.
Please. Don’t get caught up in divisive hypocrisy laying criticism and cynicism on everyone that isn’t your flavor of mindset. We all need your genuine soul to shine through. They need love. They need healing. You need love. You need healing. We all need love, and healing. You want things to change? Literally be that change. Need help? Reach out and get connected.
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